How To Get Pregnant Fast: Step 8 – Miscarriage

How To Get Pregnant Fast: Step 8 – Miscarriage

by Dr Emma Gray - 20th August, 2018

How to Get Pregnant Fast

This is the 8th blog in the series How to Get Pregnant Fast. This article is about miscarriage, why it happens, the stats and how to cope if it happens to you.

This blog will give you the key facts and highlights, but for more details check out the book I have written to accompany this series: How To Get Pregnant Fast by Dr Emma Gray

Unfortunately for many women miscarriage is a part of having a family. With 1 in 3 pregnancies ending in miscarriage most women who have had 2 or more children will have experienced at least one. Miscarriage is nature’s way of ensuring the survival of the human race by allowing only the strongest and healthiest pregnancies to continue. Unexplained miscarriage is therefore not a sign that something is wrong with us, it is a sign that our bodies are functioning as they should and that next time we are more likely than not to carry a healthy baby to term

Recurrent Miscarriage

Recurrent miscarriage is a term used if you have lost 3 or more pregnancies. It is at this point that most medics will begin to investigate the cause of your miscarriages. Up until this point it is usual to be told that you have just been unlucky and to keep trying. There are various causes of recurrent miscarriage, some of which are treatable, but for some couples no cause is ever identified. However, 60-70% of women who have had repeated and unexplained miscarriages go on to have healthy pregnancies.

One study looking at recurrent miscarriage suggests that some women’s wombs are too good at letting embryos implant and will accept all embryos including the poor quality ones that other women would reject. The study concludes that in these cases ‘super fertility’ is responsible for unexplained recurrent miscarriage. So, if you have experienced recurrent miscarriages instead of ‘there’s something wrong with me’ maybe try thinking ‘my body is too good at this’. How you think about things has a significant impact on your mood and your mood will determine you ability to cope with miscarriage.

For more tips on how to cope with miscarriage watch my video:

Pregnancy After Miscarriage

Pregnancy after a miscarriage is always a challenge, but there are a number of ways to ease your anxiety that history will repeat itself:

1. Take one day at a time and try to distract yourself as much as you can by filling your time with activities that give you a sense of achievement and enjoyment.

2. Keep your mind focused on what is happening now and try to resist the urge to make predictions about what might happen in the future, particularly catastrophic ones. To keep your mind present practice meditation which research has shown to be extremely helpful in managing distress and other negative emotions.

3. If you find statistics helpful, this day by day miscarriage risk chart may help you to manage your count down.

4. Check out the self-help programmes in the book that accompanies this blog series to help you to better manage your emotions.

Good luck on your fertility journey!

If you are suffering with any of the issues discussed in this article and would like to seek professional help then you may find our Fertility Page helpful.

Dr Emma Gray

Dr Emma Gray

I am often the first person with whom my patients share significant and intimate thoughts and memories; I never take that privileged position for granted nor the opportunity to help someone to feel better about themselves and discover a more fulfilling life. One of my colleagues once described me as a natural psychologist; I guess she was alluding to the fact that I feel at ease being a therapist, I can empathise with people’s distress and discomfort but don’t feel overwhelmed by it, I can understand their problem and know how to help, it has always just felt like what I should be doing.

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