How To Get Pregnant Fast: Step 4 – Maximising The Chances Of Conception

How To Get Pregnant Fast: Step 4 – Maximising The Chances Of Conception

by Dr Emma Gray - 23rd July, 2018

How to Get Pregnant Fast

This is the 4th of 9 blogs in the series How to Get Pregnant Fast. In this article I am going to show you how to maximise your chances of conception.

This blog will give you the key facts and highlights, but for more details check out the book I have written to accompany this series: How To Get Pregnant Fast by Dr Emma Gray

The reality is that if you are having sex regularly most couples will conceive within 2 years, regardless of age. However, there are a few things that you can do to speed up this process.

1. Timing Sex

When you and your partner have sex will make a big difference to how quickly you conceive. You are most likely to conceive if you have sex on day 1 and/or 2 before ovulation, twice as likely in fact than if you have sex on day 3, 4 or 5 (before ovulation). Conception on these days is also less likely to lead to miscarriage. And, timing sex in this way eliminates the age difference, so if you are 35-39 and have sex 2 days before ovulation you are just as likely to get pregnant as a woman aged 19-26.

2. Pinpointing Ovulation

This is of course necessary if you are going to achieve No. 1. The most effective ways of pinpointing ovulation are:

  • Monitoring Cervical Mucus
  • Monitoring the position of your Cervix

Detailed information about how to do this are given in the book.

To confirm that you have ovulated each month you should measure your Basal Body Temperature, this is reasonably straightforward, but detailed guidance is given in the book.

There are also a number of useful monitors and apps that can help with this process. For a useful comparison of currently available fertility apps and monitors visit

3. Positions

Some experts recommend rear entry (‘doggy style’), missionary and side-by-side as optimal positions to allow for the deepest penetration and contact with the cervix, while minimising the chance of leakage.  Other experts also suggest having your partner keep his penis inside you for as long as possible after his orgasm as this is thought to create a good barrier and keep the semen concentrated close to the cervix. These are both theories that are yet to be proven, but you have nothing to lose in trying these!

4. After Sex

It is often suggested that after sex you should elevate your hips to assist the sperm in their journey into the cervix. However, your pelvis does not move when you do this so it is sufficient to just lie down for 10-15 minutes and allow gravity to get the sperm going in the right direction. The sperm that is going to reach the cervix will have done so in this time.

5. Safeguarding Sperm

Try to have sex at least every five days during the time you are not trying to conceive to flush out the sperm. This will ensure that you have healthy sperm when you need them! Then approximately 5 days before you will ovulate, have sex either every day or every other day up until and including the day of ovulation.

Finally, most lubricants and saliva can damage sperm so during your fertile window abstain from oral sex and if you use a lubricant use one that is sperm-friendly.

Good luck on your fertility journey!

Dr Emma Gray

Dr Emma Gray

I am often the first person with whom my patients share significant and intimate thoughts and memories; I never take that privileged position for granted nor the opportunity to help someone to feel better about themselves and discover a more fulfilling life. One of my colleagues once described me as a natural psychologist; I guess she was alluding to the fact that I feel at ease being a therapist, I can empathise with people’s distress and discomfort but don’t feel overwhelmed by it, I can understand their problem and know how to help, it has always just felt like what I should be doing.

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