How To Get Pregnant Fast – Fertility Series

How To Get Pregnant Fast – Fertility Series

by Dr Emma Gray - 27th June, 2018

How to Get Pregnant Fast

Step 1 – Getting Started

This blog series is designed to help you to prepare both your mind and body for pregnancy and to survive the time it takes you to get you to this point.  It is based on my professional and personal experience of infertility, I am a mother of 4 boys, all conceived after the age of 35, the last at 44, despite being told that I was infertile.

The series will consist of 9 blogs and accompanying YouTube videos and will cover what to eat, what supplements to take, how to maximise your chances of conception, the right work-life balance to supercharge your fertility, complementary approaches, emotional well-being, surviving miscarriage and trying to conceive over 35yrs. This blog series will give you the key facts and highlights, but for more details check out the book I have written to accompany this series:

How To Get Pregnant Fast by Dr Emma Gray

A Game of Chance

The first thing to remember is that conceiving a baby is a game of chance, those that tell you that their partner only had to look at them for them to get pregnant are not more fertile than you, they have just been luckier. With the odds of conceiving in a single cycle at 20-25% for the most fertile among us (20-24 year olds), each month you roll the dice. Some of us just have to roll that dice a few more times before we hit the jackpot.

The second thing to remember is that you are more likely to get pregnant than not. Only 5% of fertile couples (i.e. those who have not been identified as infertile) will not have conceived within 2 years of trying (regardless of age). The data ends at this point so some of this group will conceive if they continue trying. This means that the longer you can stay in the game the better your chances of success.

This programme will help you to focus your energy in a helpful direction whilst you wait for your baby, it will give you control over the elements of this process that are within your control and help you to accept those that are not. And maybe, most importantly, it will give you the psychological knowledge and tools to stay in the game as long as you need to, to have your baby.

The 12 Month Pregnancy

Experts say that women who are planning a pregnancy should begin preparing for it at least three months prior to actively trying to conceive. This is because it takes 3 months for immature eggs (oocytes) and sperm cells to mature, meaning the quality of the egg and sperm that develops into a baby will be dictated by your lifestyle at least 4 months before you receive a positive pregnancy test. This coupled with the fact that the greatest risk to the feotus for congenital anomalies and birth defects happens between the first two to eight weeks of pregnancy has led many experts to think of pregnancy as a 12 rather than 9 month process.

This programme will help you to prepare your body and that of your partner so that the building blocks for your baby (the eggs and sperm) are of the best quality. This will not only maximise your chances of conceiving and carrying a healthy baby to term but it will also maximise your future child’s physical and psychological health.

Good luck on your fertility journey!

One more thing before we start…….

It can be incredibly reassuring when you are trying to conceive to know that you are doing everything you can. However, it is important that your life is not put on hold during the process as this will cause stress, resentment and frustration. These emotions will negatively impact not just on your fertility and your ability to stay in the game as long as you need to but on other aspects of your life, ones which have the potential to bring you comfort, satisfaction and happiness. So, use this programme to tailor your own individual approach to improving your fertility, one that suits your personality and outlook but most importantly one that is sustainable. A good rule of thumb is the 80/20 rule; follow your fertility programme 80% of the time and give you self a break from it the rest of the time. This is not meant to encourage a ‘bingeing’ approach to those things that you are cutting out but to encourage some flexibility and self-kindness when you are faced with special occasions or just when you fancy a little treat.


Dr Emma Gray

Dr Emma Gray

I am often the first person with whom my patients share significant and intimate thoughts and memories; I never take that privileged position for granted nor the opportunity to help someone to feel better about themselves and discover a more fulfilling life. One of my colleague once described me as natural psychologist; I guess she was alluding to the fact that I feel at ease being a therapist, I can empathise with people’s distress and discomfort but don’t feel overwhelmed by it, I can understand their problem and know how to help, it has always just felt like what I should be doing.


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