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Am I a Perfectionist?

by Dr Emma Gray - 4th February, 2014

Dear Dr Gray, I think I am a perfectionist. Everything I do I feel I have to do perfectly yet despite putting what feels like 110% into everything I am never satisfied with anything and still constantly feel like a failure. I feel pretty depressed about this as it seems like there is no way to improve the situation as the harder I try at things the worse I seem to feel. The pressure is really getting to me and I have been signed off work with stress. Stephen – […]...

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Hiding From Anxiety

by Dr Emma Gray - 4th February, 2014

Dear Dr Gray, I have always been a worrier and avoided the things that scare me, like lifts, the underground, busy pubs. However, recently my list of thing that make me anxious and things that I avoid seems to be growing and I am reaching the point where I feel anxious most of the time. Please help. Lucy – Islington Dr Gray Replies…….. Dear Lucy, One of the most common ways of dealing with anxiety is to avoid the source of the anxiety, we have evolved to respond in this […]...

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Dear Dr Gray, I have been with my partner for 8 years and unhappy I think for 7 but I am too scared to leave because I am worried that I won’t find anyone else and I don’t want to be alone. I am starting to feel really depressed and at times quite anxious about the whole thing. What should I do? Henry (Clapham) Dr Gray Replies…….. Dear Henry, Change of any kind is difficult because you are swapping what is familiar (even if this is less than desirable) with […]...

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I Can’t Make Friends

by Dr Emma Gray - 27th January, 2014

Dear Dr Gray, I try so hard to get people to like me, I am always bending over backwards to help people, trying to do things for them, I even try to anticipate want people want so that they don’t even have to ask for it. Despite all this I don’t really have any friends and I am so lonely maybe even depressed. What am I doing wrong?. Hannah (Clapham, London) Dr Gray Replies…….. Dear Hannah, I am wondering how you feel about yourself? Whether you believe that you are […]...

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