What Is The Gottman Couples Therapy Technique And What Types Of Problems Is It Useful For?
Exploring different types of couples therapy techniques can help you to get a better understanding of how therapy can help you, and the methods a therapist may use. Though the therapist is an expert in finding the best method for you, understanding the different techniques may help you to feel more prepared.
Here, we explain more about what is involved in the Gottman couples therapy technique, how it can help, and how effective it can be.
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Read the common issues that are addressed in the Gottman couples therapy technique.
Find out how effective the Gottman couples therapy technique is.
Find out how we can help you overcome your relationship issues.
The Gottman couples therapy method is an evidence-based form of couples therapy that aims to assist couples in achieving a deeper sense of understanding and empathy with their relationships. Developed by John Gottman, the technique is based on decades of research, and John Gottman found in his research that some marriages end in divorce while others succeed due to the way couples interact and navigate conflict.
Gottman created the Sound Relationship House theory, which identifies seven “floors” that a couple can move through to improve their relationship:
Build love maps: This stage involves both individuals getting to know one another’s inner psychological worlds.
Share fondness and admiration: Couples on this floor learn to overtly express appreciation and respect for each other to strengthen their bond.
Turn towards, not away: You learn to notice when your partner is seeking attention, affection, and comfort and responding accordingly.
The positive perspective: This floor helps partners learn to see one another positively, enabling them to see errors as matters of circumstance, not failures of an individual.
Manage conflict: Here, you learn to manage conflict through a three-step process. First, partners take each other’s feelings into account. Partners then learn to discuss their problems. Finally, when a partner starts to feel overwhelmed during conflict, they learn techniques to self-soothe to keep their cool.
Make life dreams come true: This floor centers on supporting and championing your partner’s goals and accomplishments.
Create shared meaning: The top floor mirrors the first floor in that it involves understanding an inner world, but in this case, it’s the couple’s inner world and entails uncovering the rituals and stories that have shared meaning for them.
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The key goals of the Gottman couples therapy technique are:
To disarm conflicting verbal communication. Find out how person-centered couples therapy can help improve communication here.
Increase intimacy, respect, and affection
Achieve heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth
Identify and address the natural defenses that hinder effective communication
Create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.
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The Gottman method can help with a range of issues, however, the following are most commonly addressed in the Gottman couples therapy method:
Overcoming an affair or trust issues
Emotional distance
Resolving conflict in a healthier manner.
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The Gottman method is known to be a highly effective method of treatment. One study on the Gottman Method found that after 10 sessions, it was an effective treatment for improving married couples’ relationships, compatibility, and intimacy.
We offer a variety of therapies for couples, and our therapists will provide you with the most suitable therapy technique for you.
At British CBT & Counselling, our experienced psychologists, psychotherapists and therapists have experience dealing with countless different relationship issues, and will be able to suggest the best approach for you. Our psychologists have spent between seven- and nine-years training to enable people to overcome their emotional difficulties, and many hold senior positions in the NHS. We offer online therapy to allow more flexibility and help you find time for therapy in your busy schedule.
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Your therapist will only offer this method of therapy if it is ideal for your individual circumstance. The key benefits of this method are that can help you to resolve conflict in a healthier manner and can help to increase intimacy and respect.
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Your therapist will initially ask questions to help them find out some of the ways you might be struggling. They will use The Sound Relationship House Theory to help you improve your relationship and measure your progress against the factors in this theory.
The Gottman therapy method is ideal for improving communication, how you handle conflict, and overcoming emotional distance.
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