Through our lives it’s inevitable that we’ll experience a number of relationships problems. These could be with our partners, our children, our family, or friends. When these relationships start to run into problems, we can be left feeling distressed, upset and highly anxious. These feelings can spread out and effect those who are closest to us. It’s therefore important to do something about this before things start to get out of control.
Feelings of jealousy, resentment, anger and animosity are all commonly experienced during the breakdown of a relationship. This is a challenging time, and it can lead to, in some cases, emotional and even physical abuse.
According to Mentalhealth.org.uk “recent studies from Ireland and the USA have found that negative social interactions and relationships, especially with partners, increase the risk of depression, anxiety and thoughts of suicide. In contrast, positive, pragmatic exchanges and interactions reduce the risk of these issues.”
How talking therapy can help
We offer a straight forward five-step programme that works towards resolving the problems currently being experienced, and directing the relationship back to a more positive place.
During the initial session, your therapist will ask each of you to identify the issues in your relationship, and what your goals are for the counselling. They will talk through what you can expect from therapy.
Following on from your first session your therapist may ask you both to complete some simple, practical tasks before your next session. These may include keeping detailed records of misunderstanding or arguments, diaries of your thoughts and feelings, listening to a recording of your counselling sessions and practising specific techniques to reduce unhelpful behaviours.
Over the next few weeks, you may find it best to meet individually with your therapist for them to gain a better understanding of what your roles are within the relationship, and to allow you the space to explore and discuss the issues you face without the other member in the relationship present.
Your therapist will then meet with you together and present a detailed treatment plan which will explain why you are both experiencing difficulties, and what you can do to overcome this.
Over the course of the treatment your therapist will collaborate with you both through the process of making these changes using a combination of couples and individual sessions and homework tasks.
So, if this sounds helpful or if you’d just like to talk things through, please contact us at the British CBT & Counselling Service where we can give you individualised advice.