Having A Miscarriage
A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy during the first 23 weeks (NHS, 2018). Sadly, many women across the whole world experience miscarriages and figures show that 1 in 3 pregnancies end in miscarriage for those that know they are pregnant. A large sum of miscarriages happens before a woman is even aware that they have fallen pregnant. No matter how far on in your pregnancy you may be, coping with a miscarriage can cause feelings of sadness, distress and depression in both parents. Grief counselling is a good way to address your thoughts and feelings as well as to find a way to reconfigure your life including your miscarriage as a part of it.
It is important for both parents to feel that they have a strong support system to help them through such a difficult time. Time spent with family, friends and people close to them may help somebody to cope with any feelings of depression they may be experiencing. It is important to open up and seek advice/help if you are struggling with your feelings, with counselling services and support groups available you may find that sharing your thoughts with someone helps to come to terms with your loss.
After a miscarriage, an emotional impact can sometimes be immediate or it can come several weeks afterwards. Every person has different ways of coping and processing their bereavement, some find it easier to address their feelings and find comfort in talking about it whilst others find it too painful and difficult to discuss. The British CBT can offer grief counselling which provides support and a way to process the pain of loss. However, there are things that are important to remember and acknowledge after experiencing a miscarriage.
Firstly, it is important to understand the fact that you can conceive. You may hear this several times after your miscarriage which may make you feel quite angry and upset as you do not have your baby. However, it is important to remember that you and your partner are compatible and have had the ability to conceive between the two of you. Unexplained miscarriages are ultimately the result of your body functioning as it should, nature only allows the strongest pregnancies to reach to term. Another important aspect to bear in mind is to focus on the present. We understand that this may be difficult, after going through such a traumatic and devastating experience, although, continuing to complete tasks that give you a feeling of purpose or pleasure can help you with your grief. Meditation is also a good way of reducing strong feelings of upset, confusion and distress.