Blog Articles From November 2018

Blog Articles From November 2018

The Keys To a Healthy Relationship: Key No. 5 – How To Stop Arguing

In this article, the fifth in The Keys to a Health Relationship series, I will share 6 tips to help you and your partner stop arguing. No one agrees all the time, in fact, if a couple does it is usually a sign that one partner is dominating the other and only that person is getting their needs met. Disagreements are necessary if relationships are to grow, deepen and adapt to changing demands, however, to be productive, certain ‘rules’ need to be observed, otherwise disagreements quickly disintegrate into shouting matches. […]...

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The Keys To a Healthy Relationship: Key No. 4 – The Impact Of The Past

This is the 4th blog in this relationship series, The Keys to a Healthy Relationship. Here I will explain how our past relationships can have a negative impact on our current ones. People struggle to remain completely present in the current moment. This is because our ancestors were physically safer if they frequently reviewed past experiences to make predictions about future risks. As evolution is a slow process, we retain this tendency despite the fact that the risks modern people face are very different. This means that our current relationships […]...

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The Keys To a Healthy Relationship: Key No. 3 – The Dance

This is the 3rd article in the blog series The Keys to a Healthy Relationship and in it I am going to look at our tendency to get stuck in repetitive communication patterns. In our relationships we often unknowingly, engage in repetitive patterns of interaction, a kind of communications set piece, or dance. These dances can be healthy leading to both partners getting their needs met, however, often we are drawn to recreate unhealthy interactions or dances from our past, simply because these are familiar and this feels safe, even […]...

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The Keys To a Healthy Relationship: Key No. 2 – Getting What You Need

In this 2nd instalment of The Keys to a Healthy Relationship I am going to explain how to get what you need in your relationship, because when this happens harmony and satisfaction rules. When doing couples counselling I often hear couples say ‘if my partner loves me shouldn’t they just know what I need?’.  As I mentioned in the first article of this series, human beings are internally focused, so thinking about others does not come naturally. It is a skill that must be learned (to see how see Key […]...

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