Important Decisions – Part One

Important Decisions – Part One

by Dr Emma Gray - 26th November, 2014

The first part of this blog explores why making important decision can be difficult and the psychological qualities that are necessary if we are to be decisive when under stress.

Making good decisions, especially important ones is often anxiety provoking and paradoxically this anxiety makes a decision harder to come to.

Making a decision results in a change of some sort, usually swapping what is familiar with what is unfamiliar, meaning that most decisions require a bit of a leap of faith because ultimately we can only guess at what the future holds for us.

As result the ability to be decisive, especially when it feels as if a lot is at stake, requires a number of psychological and emotional traits including

· the ability to resist the temptation to make the worse case scenario our reality

· a confidence in our ability to cope with challenges in a spontaneous and flexible way

· the skills to adapt to change and draw the best from a situation even if turns out to not be quite what was expected

· the ability to manage strong emotions including anxiety, anger and disappointment/depression and respond to them appropriately and assertively

The absence of these traits often results in an individual avoiding or opting out of the decision making process by procrastinating or shirking of responsibility. Being able to make good decisions in a timely way is necessary if we are to fulfil out potential, achieve our goals and be satisfied with ourselves and our lives.

Therefore if you are frequently overwhelmed by the decision making process you will find yourself not only underachieving but vulnerable to a range of problems including low self esteem and confidence, anxiety, depression, frustration and irritability.

The second part of this blog looks at a set of techniques to assist and improve the decision making process and ultimately psychological and emotional well being. Click below to navigate.


Dr Emma Gray

Dr Emma Gray

I am often the first person with whom my patients share significant and intimate thoughts and memories; I never take that privileged position for granted nor the opportunity to help someone to feel better about themselves and discover a more fulfilling life. One of my colleague once described me as natural psychologist; I guess she was alluding to the fact that I feel at ease being a therapist, I can empathise with people’s distress and discomfort but don’t feel overwhelmed by it, I can understand their problem and know how to help, it has always just felt like what I should be doing.


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