How To Keep A Relationship Working Top 6 Tipsby Dr Emma Gray - 16th July, 2012
Relationship problems are often similar whatever type of relationship you are in. Here are some pearls to help you make it work over the longer term:
Talking about it is the only way to work something out. Human beings are fundamentally inward focused and more importantly are not mind readers, if you don’t tell your partner what the problem is they won’t guess.
2. Compliment Don’t Criticise
Research has shown that the more the pendulum swings in the favour of compliments or criticism the more likely the relationship is to succeed.
3. Don’t Take Each Other For Granted
Express gratitude and appreciation as much as you can, if one of you feels they are being taken for granted this will quickly spiral into resentment, never an ingredient of a successful relationship
In practical terms this involves the man accepting influence from his partner and the woman moderating her approach to seeking influence.
5. Accept That Sometimes You Are Being Unreasonable
Try not to become too entrenched in one position (e.g. martyr, victim) and try and step back and consider what you are contributing to the problem. Relationships involve 2 people, both of whom bring something to the equation.
6. Have A Life Outside Of The Relationship
Putting all of your eggs in one basket places an enormous amount of pressure on the relationship and leaves it feeling very 1 dimensional, after all, what is there to talk about if you are living in each others pockets!