How To Face The Things You Fear (Part One)

How To Face The Things You Fear (Part One)

by Dr Emma Gray - 21st October, 2014

The first part of this blog looks are why we experience fear or anxiety in the face of certain challenges that have the potential to move our lives forward in a positive way.

We fear things because we predict that something negative will happen and that we will not then have the resources to cope.

This combination of anticipated disaster and expected helplessness in the face of it leads our brains to identify a risk which triggers our body’s response to danger, i.e. anxiety or fear. Predicted negative outcomes can involve both practical and psychological catastrophes, common examples include:

Practical negative outcomes: harm to self or others, damage to property, loss of job/role

Psychological negative out: negative evaluation by others, embarrassment/humiliation, being overwhelmed by negative emotions (e.g. panic attacks or losing one’s mind).

If the thoughts that underlie your fears are both accurate and helpful you need to read no further, however, if your anxiety is preventing you from achieving something that would enhance your experience and move your life forward in a desirable way it is likely that you predictions about the future are self defeating and need to be addressed.

Understanding why we experience fear in the face of a perceived challenge offers us a way forward in terms of dealing with the challenge.

In part two of this blog we outline a therapeutic programme that has been designed by the team of Clinical Psychologists and Counselling Psychologists at The British CBT & Counselling Service to help you to tackle your fears and anxiety and overcome the challenges that you face.

The programme draws on the principles of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), a ‘talking therapy’ that research has shown to be the most effective treatment available for anxiety and aims to offer individuals a way of breaking cycles of avoidance that are holding them back and preventing them from reaching their full potential.

This is part one of A multi part article, click below to navigate.


Dr Emma Gray

Dr Emma Gray

I am often the first person with whom my patients share significant and intimate thoughts and memories; I never take that privileged position for granted nor the opportunity to help someone to feel better about themselves and discover a more fulfilling life. One of my colleague once described me as natural psychologist; I guess she was alluding to the fact that I feel at ease being a therapist, I can empathise with people’s distress and discomfort but don’t feel overwhelmed by it, I can understand their problem and know how to help, it has always just felt like what I should be doing.


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